Author: Kim Potgieter
To cover those costs from investments, you’d need to save approximately R56,500 a year, escalating annually, starting when your child is born. This estimate assumes a 10% annual return on investment. For most families, that’s a tall order – especially when you’re also trying to save for retirement, pay off a bond, and manage rising living costs. No wonder so many parents feel overwhelmed. And when pressure rises, the temptation to make short-term decisions with long-term consequences increases, too.
With a clear plan, it’s possible to give your children an excellent...
It’s never too late – but it’s time to get intentional
It’s not uncommon for parents to put their own lives – and their retirement savings – on hold to prioritise their children’s education. It’s a choice made with love, but one that often leaves you playing catch-up later in life. What I admire so deeply about Lyndsay and Christian is how they faced this reality with courage and intention. Instead of panicking, they took action. They made intentional choices. And most of all, they shifted their mindset.
What stands out most about their journey is the way they’ve embraced this chapter of life. Rather than seeing it as a...
From survival mode to intentional living
But what happens when the children leave home and the school fees are finally paid off? Your priorities begin to shift. Suddenly, there’s space to ask, What do I want now? How do I start designing a life that’s meaningful for me – and how do I catch up on the retirement planning I’ve neglected?
Often, in midlife, there’s a moment when the focus turns inward. It’s about balancing your dreams with the reality that your earning years may be limited, and learning how to build a life – and a retirement – that feels secure and meaningful.
This is where Lyndsay and her...
When one child needs more than the other
You can love your children equally – without spending the same
Spending the same on each child is nearly impossible – and most don’t expect it. My mother, for example, still gives me an extra Christmas gift to “even things out” because my sister has children and receives gifts for them too. It’s a lovely gesture, but I don’t need my mom to keep score – I love my niece and nephew, and they matter to me, too.
Most children need to feel equally seen, supported, and valued, and that cannot be measured in rands and cents.
Giving without boundaries can lead to...
Kim’s reflection on loving your children without losing yourself
The first step to taking control of your financial future is valuing yourself enough to honour your dreams and priorities. What puts us most at risk is not the support we offer others – it’s when we delay the hard decisions, avoid the real conversations, and continue giving at the cost of our own future.
Lauren is an incredibly brave mother. Setting boundaries with those we love is never easy, especially when it’s our children. But it can be one of the kindest and most courageous choices we make – for them and for ourselves.
If you’re navigating a similar path, consider...
A mother’s story
After walking away from two marriages with nothing, Lauren rebuilt her life and her money. She now supports her daughter and grandchildren – financially and emotionally – while trying to honour her own dreams and protect her financial future. But that support has come at a cost: to her retirement savings, her career goals, and her relationship with her independent son.
This is a story many women will recognise – the fine line between helping and enabling, between guilt and boundaries, between putting your children first and not losing yourself in the process.
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Always broke – no matter how much you earn?
It’s not just about what you earn
In my work as a financial planner, I’ve met people with high incomes who feel just as financially anxious as those earning far less. The common thread? Habits that quietly undermine their financial well-being. These are often unconscious patterns – behaviours repeated so often they become automatic. We don’t question them because they feel normal. But over time, they shape our money story and our future.
The good news? Just like they were formed, habits can be unlearned, reworked, and replaced with new ones that support the life you want to...
Is it time to cancel your life insurance?
It’s a common question, especially in midlife or as you approach retirement. The rising premiums can feel harder to justify, and letting go of the cover may feel like a waste – especially after investing in it for so long.
Before you cancel, it’s worth pausing to reflect:
Why did you take it out – and do you still need it in retirement?
Think back to why you took the policy in the first place. Was it to:
Protect dependants?
Cover a home loan or debt?
Provide liquidity in your estate?
If those needs no longer apply, and your retirement feels secure, the cover might no...
Kim’s reflection on helping others and honouring yourself
When giving brings guilt and expectations
I notice this often – how easy it is to feel guilty about spending money on ourselves when those we love are struggling. And it’s not just about who we feel we should help, but also when we choose to help. Do we step in only when someone asks, or do we offer because we see them struggling? And when we do help, do we let go, or do we quietly hold expectations about how that money should be used?
I’ve seen this play out in many of my clients’ lives – and I’ve experienced it personally. For years, I felt compelled to help whenever I noticed...
How to balance generosity, guilt, and expectations with money
Introducing Sarah
Sarah has always been cautious with money, shaped by childhood memories of watching her parents work hard to provide stability. But now, managing her financial future alone while feeling a deep responsibility for her family, who are facing their own struggles, has created emotional tension. Not earning as much as she used to has only added to the pressure. Sarah is now navigating the tricky balance between generosity and self-care, questioning how to set boundaries, when to give, and how to feel good about enjoying her money.
Sarah’s childhood money memories
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