Author: Kim Potgieter
If you support your parents, adult children, and even grandchildren, you’re part of the Sandwich Generation. Balancing these responsibilities while planning for your secure future can seem nearly impossible, and managing savings, bond repayments, credit card debt, school fees, and frail care can be financially and emotionally demanding.
It may be time to check in with yourself:Can you afford to support children who should be supporting themselves?How does this affect your current living expenses and future retirement savings?How is balancing the needs of multiple generations affecting...
Packing for Your Next Chapter
Every new beginning ends something.
One of my favourite exercises, especially during transitions, is the Suitcase Exercise. This exercise is particularly useful when facing numerous changes and challenges simultaneously. The idea is simple yet profound: you assess your top values and then examine every aspect of your life – your work, identity, relationships, money, attitudes, habits, etc. – to determine what’s working and what’s not.
This exercise requires looking at the things that get in the way and what you need to leave behind. Think about all the parts of your...
Doing Midlife Your Way
Midlife is a time of significant transition. We stand at a crossroads, reflecting on our paths and contemplating the roads that lie ahead. It’s easy to feel overwhelmed by the myriad of changes happening all at once – career shifts, children leaving home, ageing parents, changes in our relationships, the possibility of retirement or a second career, physical changes and health concerns. And it’s easy to feel stuck, unsure of how to proceed when everything seems to change all at once – rarely do we experience only one of these transitions at a time.
Frank Sinatra’s timeless lyrics...
Redefining work post-midlife – Breaking the Midlife Myth
A common midlife myth is the fear that “I will never have enough money to retire,” or the assumption that “I will have to adjust my lifestyle to what my retirement assets can provide.”People either see retirement as the end of work or are so worried that their savings will never be enough to sustain their pre-retirement lifestyles that they feel the need to keep working at the same intensity and pace.
When we discuss these concerns with clients, we challenge these myths by asking, “What would your life look like if you could continue working with more time for personal interests and...
The Midlife Myths we tell ourselves, and the Truths we need to embrace
I recently returned from Chip Conley’s Learning to Love Midlife workshop at the Modern Elder Academy (MEA) in Baja. I joined a diverse group from across America and Canada, ages 33 to 70. Starting out, we discovered a midlife myth that we all shared based on this question: What percentage of your adult life is still ahead of you? How would you answer? The point is, once you dispel one Myth, a whole set of Truths opens up to you.
Here are the top 3 Midlife Myths and Truths I discovered at MEA:
Midlife Myth #1: You are not old
The fact is, we are living longer. Realising that you...
Financially Unprepared – the unintended burden of inheritance
I have found that one of the main contributors to these complexities is what I’ve termed financial maturity. When I speak about financial maturity in this context, I am talking about the beneficiary’s understanding of the value of money, how far it can or can’t go, their real-life experience with money, and whether they are capable of making informed decisions while considering the long-term implications of those choices. It also means feeling comfortable and content.
The Emotional Complexities of Inheritance
I have helped clients who received money from relatives with whom they had...
Navigating Inheritance – beyond the money
Gabriella inherited a substantial sum from her husband. They shared a beautiful and deep connection, and his death turned her entire world upside down. As a young widow, apart from navigating the overwhelming loss of her life partner, the sudden windfall left her feeling guilty, overwhelmed, and daunted by the responsibility of these funds.
How does one honour a legacy with grace and wisdom? How do you navigate this profound life transition that suddenly feels strange, unfamiliar and filled with new challenges?
Introducing Gabriella
The past few years have been profoundly...
Honouring a legacy and moving forward
Nothing can really prepare you for the emotional turmoil of losing a loved one. Life suddenly feels unsafe and unpredictable, and you need to find deep resilience to pull through. Although Gabriella’s husband had carefully planned for her future, entrusting her completely to manage the inheritance and use it to take care of herself and pursue her dreams, the responsibility felt overwhelming. The guilt and daunting sense of duty left her fearful of mismanaging the funds, anxious about making mistakes and terrified of wasting the gift left to her.
I am incredibly proud of Gabriella –...
To Rent or Buy – a Midlife Perspective
Financial goals: Does renting or buying align better with your financial goals?Market conditions: Have you considered the cost implications?Lifestyle: How may your lifestyle influence your decision to rent or buy?Future uncertainties: Could any life changes affect your decision?Family: Will changes in your family (children leaving home; elderly parents moving in) impact your decision?Seeking Advice: There is no one-size-fits-all answer. Both options have merits: homeownership brings stability and potential future equity, while renting might suit you better if you’re anticipating future...
Kim’s Reflection and Advice
Give yourself permission to honour your authentic self
Midlife offers us a unique opportunity to reassess our values, align our money with meaning and unlock a new chapter filled with authenticity, joy and purpose. Kathleen has done incredible work taking a brave step forward to reassess her core values and planning a new chapter that echoes these priorities. Her decision to return to SA reflects honouring her highest values (family and close connections) over financial security overseas. A prudent move on her part is to rent accommodation in SA for now to give her time to assess her...





